We can "trick" easily … In other words, we make our reality through our emotions, that is, from the way we process our experiences. So, why not pay attention to the transformation process in the area of our feelings? Change how I feel, based on the thoughts, that my action on reality is positive, constructive, creative and effective. The reality, first changing my own essence, my personality. Our emotional responses are "manufactured" in the hypothalamus. On it, are created neurohormones or neuropeptides, which are responsible for the emotions we experience. There is chemistry for rabies, for happiness, for suffering, envy … Every thought or emotion to be repeated, creating connections are strengthened.
So associate situations with emotions. For example: if we remain locked in an elevator, the object "lift" can be associated with the fear of confinement. If that association is not interrupted, the brain associated with emotion and thought, strengthening the partnership and creating such a phobia. All habits and addictions operate with the same mechanics. The good news is that once we break this vicious circle, as we break that connection, the brain creates another bridge between neurons that is the "passage to liberation." Our brain is constantly remaking even in old age. Therefore, you can unlearn and relearn new ways to experience the emotions. Each association of ideas or facts, incubated a thought or memory in the form of neuronal connections, which leads to memory through associative memory. There are people connecting "love" with "disappointment" or "Deception", so when you feel love, the neural network will connect with the excitement for how you felt the last time you felt: anger, grief, anger, etc.